The festive season is all about family and friend get togethers. Aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents are all in one place for celebrations. It is a wonderful time of the year but it can also be stressful if you have a newborn baby. Dealing with lots of excited family all sharing tips, ideas and advice can be very overwhelming for a new parent.
What do you do though? You can’t just skip Christmas completely, can you? If that is what ends up being best for your family, then it may be something to consider. Remember that you and your new baby are your priority and you need to do what works for you.
If you do end up in a large family gathering try these tips to cope.
Don’t be afraid to take a time out. If it is nap time, remove yourself and your baby to a quiet room and let them nap. If you need to nap, nap with your baby. Even if it isn’t nap time and you need a break, go for a walk or a drive.
Smile and wave, just smile and wave. Everyone and their uncle is going to have something to say when your baby cries. They will suggest you do this, that and the next thing. Smile and wave! You don’t have to take everything everyone says to heart. You know your baby, you know if they are crying because they are hungry/tired or just feel like having a moan.
Everyone is going to want to hold your baby. Limit the time your little one is passed around. It can be overwhelming for them as well. When they are awake and happy is a good time for cuddles but as nap/feeding time approaches limit the amount of people who hold your baby. It is ok to say no.
Enjoy the help! If granny wants to help with feeding or nap time or just taking baby for a walk, accept the help. It means you can have a break and enjoy the celebrations a little as well.
Set YOUR boundaries. Don’t be afraid to make your boundaries clear to your family and friends. Let them know you appreciate their input but you have decided to do it your way.
Finally, try to not sweat the small stuff. Try not to get too caught up in controlling everything and enjoy the time with your family.